“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with”

That was the quote of motivational speaker Jim Rohn.  The blog Lifehacker recently posted this quote and it got me thinking.  Is this really true?  And if it is true, is that a GOOD thing or a BAD thing?

Perhaps that’s why so many churches are isolated from the very communities that they live in.

I’ve been taught from a very early age that those you spend time are the ones who influence you.

The end result of that:  you should only hang with people who are just like you… namely, Christians.

That’s why when you became a Christian, it was important for you to break bonds with all your current friends.

In a real way, that’s how we got Christian schools, Christian sports teams for the kids, Christian gyms… you name it.

The people we hang with reinforce who we likely are.

But how does that help lost people?

This is a difficult one for me.  I need to know more lost people.

I score an 8 out of 10 on the introvert scale.  Maybe a 9.

I work with a Christian organization.  I’m an elder at my church.  My wife doesn’t work outside the home.

I have a real passion for the lost… yet I don’t know a lot of lost people.

In fact, it’s hard for me to meet lost people.  There’s the kids sports team.  Some family members. But it’s something I’ve long struggled with.

So… this quote has me thinking this morning.  Not so much about whether I’m just like the 5 people I hang with most; but why I don’t have a couple of people who need Jesus that are in my “fav 5”.

I’m praying that God will bring more of those people into my life.

How about you?  Do you buy the quote or not?  What do you think about it?



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