- Transactional relationships:
- You focus on what needs to happen.
- You’re concerned with the appearance of non-failure.
- You spend your time one-upping each other.
- Transformational relationships:
- You focus on who each person is becoming.
- You’re concerned with the health of people.
- You spend your time sacrificing for each other.
- T: Take the initiative in your own life first – become the person you want others to be.
- R: Raise your eyes – set your focus on things above versus things of the earth (Col 3:1-4)
- A: Ask others questions – find out who they are and what they’re most concerned about in life.
- N: Nurture conversation – set up regular lunch times where everyone gets together to chat.
- S: Say the mission – don’t just nod your head at what’s on the wall, but use it in conversation.
- F: Face people – don’t multitask during conversations (close the laptop and turn off your phone).
- O: Own mistakes – if you know you did something wrong, apologize right away.
- R: Raise standards – stop using the phrase “That was good enough.”
- M: Mind your mind – introduce people to new thoughts and ideas that can lead to change.
- Title: Parent, spouse, employer, employee, customer, teacher, student, pastor, tither, guest, regular, etc
- Influence: Your integrity, your passion, your relationship with God, etc
The most important [commandment], answered Jesus, is this: “Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” The second is this: â€˜Love your neighbor as yourself.â€™ There is no commandment greater than these.â€ (Mark 12:29-31)By: Tony Myles
Can megachurches be church visitor friendly? — Transition Ministries Group. What do YOU think? Do you think it’s easier or harder for a larger church to be visitor friendly?Bud Brown shares some metrics that he thinks would make megachurches much more visitor friendly. See if you agree. He writes: Mega-church staff and pastors are trapped in a dilemma created by the Church Growth movement – the assumption that bigger is better and that attendance inevitably produces spiritual maturity. This perspective on the disciple making process inevitably leads to metrics like attendance, income, visitor returns and so forth. In time the relentless demands of schedules, logistics, and buildings become the vision; keeping the machine running smoothly becomes the mission, and it happens with no one noticing. Inevitably, attending a mega-church is like going to Walmart the day after Thanksgiving – it is a madhouse! I’ve seen this from the inside so I have an idea of more appropriate metrics that will move a mega-church in the direction of becoming genuinely engaging, warm and welcoming: How many first time visitors did the greeters meet at the door to the auditorium? To how many regular attendees did the official greeter introduce the new guests? How many first time visitors were greeted by a staff member (Other than children’s and youth pastors all of them should circulate in the auditorium before and after services) How many prayer requests did staff collect from visitors? What is the lag time between a first visit and contact by a non-paid member of the church? (forget the pastor’s welcome letter; it’s nothing more than useless chatter these days) Is a pastor or high ranking staff member actually available meet guests after every service? How often is the hospitality team coached on technique and process? How often does the church employ a “secret shopper” guest to give impartial evaluation of the hospitality? Does the church have a welcoming team at every entrance? How many times did a welcome team members escort a new guest from the entrance to the main welcome center? Is the congregation regularly instructed that members waiting for the service to begin should greet one a number of people and not chat with one person at length? How effective is the enfolding process in moving first time guests into regular fellowship in small groups, connecting them with staff members and insuring that their spiritual needs are met or at least prayed for? What is the percentage rate? Finally, what percentage of first-time guests eventually become regular attenders who are engaged in service through the church? via
CLICK IMAGE TO WATCH VIDEO (Length: 5 min 02 sec) Subscribe to MinistryBriefing on YouTube What do YOU think? Leave a text or video comment here…How do you deal with chronic complainers in your church? Have you ever wanted to tell someone to just leave your church? Would you ever have the guts to do as this pastor did? Is it right to wish some people would just leave your church? And would it be better if they did leave to help you accomplish your mission? Lots of questions here… maybe more questions than answers… but it may help you the next time you’re confronted by a ‘serial church complainer’…
Christianity Today (CT) and Brotherhood Mutual Insurance Company (BMIC) recently conducted the joint nationalOutlook for Outreach study. Responses collected during the summer of 2012 from 1,486 church leaders and volunteers involved in outreach reveal that nearly all churches (96%) are serving those in their local community, especially in feeding and clothing the poor. Results show that churches meet — and even exceed — the need for food and clothing at the local level, however, they’re providing less hands-on assistance in addressing unemployment and preventing crime and gang-related violence than the perceived need. Along with providing disaster relief, more than half of the churches send teams on in-country mission trips (54%) and are engaged in housing construction projects. Churches are involved in international outreach efforts (70%). Fully 60% of them fund building projects overseas, including homes, churches, schools, medical clinics, and orphanages, and 53% travel abroad to physically assist with the construction work. Nine in ten churches allow other organizations to use their facility for outreach programs, so churches are opening their doors for others to serve too. The survey also shows that churches are taking care to select suitable volunteers and provide adequate training before doing hands-on ministry. “Churches engage in all kinds of outreach efforts,” says Dave Lantz, vice president, claims, Brotherhood Mutual Insurance Company. “Church leaders need to be aware of the risks associated with outreach and recognize the importance of managing those risks. It’s encouraging that many are already taking steps to minimize them.” The majority of churches say that finding enough funding and volunteers are the two biggest obstacles to doing outreach locally, nationally, and internationally. At the same time, 41% of churches report that volunteerism is up for outreach ministries, and nearly half (45%) expect their church budget for outreach to increase in the coming year. According to 62% of respondents, the number one result of serving others is a sense of maturing discipleship among those involved. Another added benefit: more than one-third (35%) of the respondents say that more previously unchurched people now attend their church as a result of their outreach efforts. “Outreach and compassion are important hallmarks of church life,” said Marshall Shelley, editorial vice president of Christianity Today. “The results of this study show the high percentage of churches and church members that are involved in serving their neighbors locally, nationally, and internationally. If faith must be exercised to remain healthy, then most churches see outreach as the fitness center for faith.” An executive summary of the survey findings is available onYourChurchResources.com and at BrotherhoodMutual.com. What is YOUR church determined to do in 2013 that you’ve never done before?Where would Americans be if churches didn’t make outreach a priority? Many would feel the pain of unmet needs for basics such as food and clothing, not to mention a slow-down in disaster recovery efforts. For many hardest hit by Hurricane Sandy, it was churches that provided the first signs of relief. In fact, a new survey —Outlook for Outreach — shows that of the 58% of churches in America that provide hands-on assistance for causes throughout our country, 75% of them engage in national disaster relief efforts. To better quantify how churches engage in outreach ministries to provide for physical needs within their local communities and the world at large,
Five Red Flags When Interviewing. What was the WORST interview you’ve ever conducted for a church position? How did it go bad? ToddEric Geiger has some great tips on interviewing for your next church staff member position. Eric writes: If you are a leader, you know that having the right players on the team is absolutely essential in fulfilling the mission the Lord has given your ministry. Thus, the recruiting and interviewing process is very important. In looking back at all the interviews I have been a part of, here are five red flags that give me great caution in taking a next step with a potential team member. 1 – No questions If someone asks no questions, it gives me the impression that they are passive, that they are not the type to take initiative, and that they don’t possess a holy curiosity that is going to nudge them to learn, explore, and look for more effective ways to serve. It also gives the impression that they are a bit cold, unable to have a conversation, to engage, to lead people somewhere. 2 – Bad questions I like questions because I learn more about a candidate by the questions they ask. And bad questions are very revealing about a person’s work ethic, passions, goals, and priorities. For example: The question: How many hours do I need to work? What I think: This may be someone who wants to punch a clock. I want people driven by a calling, not by a clock. 3 – Excuses Excuses are a major red flag because it shows the person is unable to own his/her responsibilities fully. I would much rather a person say, “Here is where I blew it and the lessons I learned.” 4 – Negative comments about current leaders The person who bashes his/her current leaders or team members will be the same person who brings that toxic attitude into our culture. No thank you. 5 – Over-negotiation When someone over-negotiates salary, benefits, or some other aspect of the role, I quickly get turned off. I think either (a) the person is not overly excited about the role as it is presented or (b) the person has an inflated view of her/himself and this will never end. I may be oversensitive to over-negotiation, but I tend to be the one who walks away. Eric has some other great thoughts on interviewing and red flags. Read them here via
“What I Wish Someone Had Told Me:” Pastors of the 100 Fastest Growing Churches Share on Vision and Alignment – Will Mancini. What do YOU wish someone would have told you about ministry 10 years ago? ToddWill Mancini writes: Every year, Outreach Magazine provides a profile of the 100 Fastest-growing churches in the country. This year, they had a few interview spots entitled, “What I wish someone told me.” What really struck me are the common threads on vision and alignment. Look for how these pastors discuss clarity and unique calling. The big themes are as follows: Radical emphasis on mission and vision (including values and strategy) Willingness to “let people go” who don’t align with the vision Commitment to stop programs and cut ministry not aligned with the vision Now, listen to their own words form the 2012 special issue. Luke Barnett (@LWBarnett), Phoenix First Assembly of God (12th Fastest-growing) At first you think the mobilizing leadership happens naturally, like leaders and volunteers and magically appear because you have a great idea, but that’s not so. Over time you learn that you have to be intentional in mobilizing and recruiting leaders and you have to develop the leaders that have bought into the vision and feel appreciated. John Beukema (@John Beukema), King Street Church (39th Fastest-growing) Some people will never leave no matter what happens and some people will leave no matter what happens. Since that has been true, I wish I had been told how pitiful and unproductive it is to worry over who you retain and who you don’t. Just do the right things, be clear on your mission, and don’t get emotionally invested in who stays or goes. David Brown (@DavidBrown_Ave), The Avenue Church (44th Fast-growing) People do not have trouble committing to something. Look around at the ball fields and cheerleading meets. The church has been slow at giving them something worth committing to be in. When leaders are passionate about the vision God has given the local church and begin to share that vision people will follow. // Read more here: