Click here to read more. Have you ever had to fire a good friend? How did that go for you? Were you able to continue the relationship in a meaningful way after the termination? ToddGreat post over at Vanderbloemen.com about having to fire your best friend. I’ve heard of people that have had to do this. Many times in church ministry, we are really close to the people we work with… and that presents real problems when there are performance issues: With many church’s budget planning ramping up in the fall, one of the realities of our current economy is downsizing. Whether you’re part of a large ministry or a small organization, staff salaries and overhead generally take a big piece of the pie. Letting someone go, especially when it’s unwarranted by behavior, is never easy. In a recent FINS informal survey, readers were asked what they would do in regards to firing someone if in return, they landed their dream job as a result. 76% of readers said they’d take their dream job if their first task was to fire their direct report, and 72% said they’d take the job if they had to do all of the firing in the office. When the firing got personal, things changed. If the person had to fire their best friend, only 36% said they’d take the job. The psychology behind this is simple: it’s more difficult to cause tension or create conflict to those with whom we’ve invested. As we get to know the people we work with, they become more human to us: we get to know their lives, their families, and sometimes their hopes and dreams.