Pastors, Scapegoating and Misplaced Blame

If only…

It was really because this person did that…

There’s enough blame in the world to go around.

And, working in the church over the years… the church is no exception.

CYA doesn’t just apply in the business world.  It’s prominent in the church as well.  Just ask anyone who works for someone in the church that has been the scapegoat for someone else’s bad decision or a program that wasn’t going well.

I’ve been there.  And you probably have to. At some point.

All of us suffer from Anthony Weiner syndrome at some point.  Here’s what I mean by that:

Over the weekend, the former congressman said this in an interview:

“I have no desire to walk into a bar and pick up a woman. I love my wife…And maybe if the Internet didn’t exist? Like, if I was running in 1955? I’d probably get elected mayor.”

In essence:  It was the internet’s fault.

No, Anthony.  You couldn’t keep your pants zipped.  Then you took inappropriate pictures.  Then you forwarded them on to other women.  Then you attempted to cover it up.

That’s why you’re not mayor of New York City.

The internet really had nothing to do with it.  It was your blunder.  Your mistake.  Your character flaw.

If the internet wasn’t in existence, you might just be another guy in a park in a trench coat.

The lesson:  don’t be so self-deceived that you always point the blame in someone else’s direction.

Sometimes, the problem is you.

Sometimes, the problem is me.

Actually, the problem is usually me.

And the moment I can learn to deal with that fact, the better leader I will be.

If you have staff under you and a board you report to… man up.  If you make a bad call, fess up.  Don’t throw your staff under the bus.

After all, it’s not always the worship or youth guy’s fault.

Sometimes, (usually as the leader) it’s yours.


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