Are you a ‘Frustrating Leader’?

Do you frustrate your team?

Perhaps your the pastor of a large church, or supervise a large team.  Do your team members find you frustrating?

Or maybe your the pastor of a smaller church.  How does your board find working with you?  Is the relationship frustrating to them?

My friend Brian Dodd recently posted a list of the 10 characteristics of leaders who frustrate the heck out of people.  See if you fit any of the characteristics:

  1. The Most Frustrating Leaders Are Not Available
  2. The Most Frustrating Leaders Do Not Put In The Proper Amount Of Effort
  3. The Most Frustrating Leaders Have A Lack Of Production In Critical Moments
  4. The Most Frustrating Leaders Constantly Make Poor Decisions
  5. The Most Frustrating Leaders Create Too Much Drama
  6. The Most Frustrating Leaders Lack Self-Awareness
  7. The Most Frustrating Leaders Are Selfish
  8. The Most Frustrating Leaders Lack Personal Discipline
  9. The Most Frustrating Leaders Are High Maintenance
  10. The Most Frustrating Leaders Constantly Make Excuses

So… how did you do?

To tell you the truth.  I wouldn’t expect you to be able to answer that question.  (We all have a little problem with #6).

So… if you have the courage… show this list to someone on your team today… someone you trust (and someone that you won’t retaliate on!) Ask them how you’re doing. Ask them, point blank, how frustrating it is to work with you.

If you’re a good leader, you’ll appreciate the input and transparency from your team.

If you’re not a good leader, you, in fact will find THIS exercise to be very frustrating. (How ironic)

I encourage you to read this.

Thoughts?

Todd

Post Easter Blues. And why you can’t stop now.

Whew!

Easter is over.

For many dynamic churches, this meant extra services and quite possibly the highest attendance of the year.

And now that it’s Monday morning, you’re probably exhausted.

But you can’t stop now.

You see, it’s pretty easy to get people to come to church on Sunday.  But I think your main goal is getting them to return the week after Easter.

Many of the crowd you saw yesterday won’t be back. Ever.  And some won’t be back until Christmas.

And most of us didn’t accept Christ the first time we heard the gospel.

Which makes the week AFTER Easter vitally important and a great opportunity.

If your visitors yesterday had a good experience, now is the time to invite them back and invite them to start a new journey.

Yet few churches capitalize on this opportunity.

Hopefully you gathered good information on your visitors yesterday.  Today you might want to:

1.  Plan your services with something in mind for your new folks that return.

2.  Send a nice letter (or better yet, a hand-written note) from the pastor to those who attended yesterday and encourage them to come back.

3. Offer something new for new people. (People always feel out of place when visiting a church… make them feel like they won’t be alone).

4. It’s kind of late to the game, but if you did marketing for Easter, follow up with some advertising for the week after Easter.

Here’s a good article from Rick Warren on post-Easter follow-up and strategy I think you’ll find helpful.

Today’s question:  How well have you planned for the week AFTER Easter? (Or is it just another Sunday?)

Todd

A Startling Wake Up Question for Every Church Leader: WHY ARE YOU HERE?

Michael Wolff is a designer and creative advisor for brands around the world.

Warning:  This is not a ‘Christian Video’.

But Michael asks a great question that every church leader should ask:  Why are you here? He contends that the ‘what’ and the ‘how’ aren’t nearly as important as the ‘why’.

This is worth 20 minutes of your time… not because you’re agree with all of it and say ‘amen’… but because it will challenge and shape you:

Thoughts?

Todd

Read more here…

 

Should the church be a country club or a hospital?

What do you think of this quote from Michael Trimmer?

If anything, it seems like the church has done a really great job of making itself look like an exclusive club for the morally and spiritually immaculate, rather than a spiritual hospital for the walking wounded in which broken people struggle against sin on a daily basis.

Should the church be more like a country club or more like a hospital?

Read more here…

What, if anything, is missing from this equation?

Todd

God has a bad credit score (and he’s ‘extremely frustrated’)

It’s true. God has a bad credit score.

God Gazarov is a Russian native who was named after his grandfather (who was probably named after… uh… God). God has a problem.  It seems that credit rating company Equifax is giving him a bad credit score because of his first name.  (Two other credit rating companies give him a very high score).

The end result: God was declined for a loan for a new Infiniti last year.

(Of course, God would want to buy an Infiniti… it only makes sense).

When he tried to get Equifax to change the glitch in their system, someone told him he might want to consider changing his first name.

So, God is suing Equifax.

According to God’s attorney, he was ‘forced’ to file a law suit because the company refused to accept his name as legitimate.

Imagine that… someone rejecting God as legitimate.

There’s a sermon illustration in there somewhere.

(You’re welcome).

Todd

Read more here…

Is Your Church “Swifting” When it Comes to Staffing?

Spivey says that many churches also have a track record of quick breakups… with staff turnover about every 18 months.

Tim says that “swifting” churches are characterized by two things usually:

1.  They hire poorly

2.  They have power issues

Tim adds: If you are looking for a place to serve, be very cautious in considering a church with high record of turnover. I know of a church that had three senior pastors in the same year. They also blamed each of those three for the transition based on “wanting a new direction.” They are right … they need a new direction. They can start by taking responsibility for either poor hiring or a quick trigger finger in personnel matters — or both.

Have you ever worked for a ‘swifting’ church?  Or maybe your on the leadership team of one.

Stop it. It does the Kingdom no good.

If you’re a church… hire well.

If you’re a potential staff member, do your due diligence as well. Talk to a past staff member or two.  (Ask permission of course).  And ask about the work environment… who the current staff are… and how long they’ve been there.

… because once that break up happens, you probably are ‘never ever ever getting back together’.

Todd

Read more from Tim here…

If you’re looking for a new staff member, or a new place to serve… check out my new staffing website at ChurchJobs.tv.  You’ll find a lot of resources to help you with your search!

Pray for Community Bible Church

Bad news from the weekend in High Point, NC.  42-year-old Pastor Robert McKeehan took his own life last Friday.  The church he served, Community Bible Church, and it’s multiple locations, are reeling in pain.

There were no public tell-tale signs of Robert’s inner struggles.  In fact, the church’s website still have a link to Robert’s last sermon, preached just five days before his suicide.  I watched a little of it, and there he hides it well. But something changed between Sunday and Friday.

My heart and prayers go out to the congregation and leadership at Community Bible.  Would you take a moment to pray for them as well today.  (And for Robert’s wife and two kids).

A lot happens in the life of leaders that go on behind the scenes.  Let’s pray for the hundreds and thousands of Robert’s out there that are on the edge and not sure what to do.  And if you have no where to turn, please feel free to contact me, and we’ll see if we can’t find someone that might be able to help.

John Hagee: Something ‘world-shaking’ is about to happen.

John Hagee says that something big is about to happen.

And it’s not good.

Not good at all.

Sometime between Now (April 15, 2014) and October of next year, we will experience a world-shaking event.

That is because the world is about to see four ‘blood moons’.

A ‘blood moon’ is actually a total lunar eclipse that turns the moon a coppery-red color.

And we’re set to see four of them.

Hagee cites Acts 2:19-20: “And I will show wonders in Heaven above and signs in the Earth beneath, the sun shall be turned into darkness and the moon into blood before the coming of the great and awesome day of the Lord.”

Hagee says all of these ‘blood moons’ happen on spiritually significant days:

The April 15 event happens during Passover. On Oct. 8, the blood moon will occur during the Feast of Tabernacles. Another blood moon will occur during Passover on April 4, 2015. The last will happen on Sept. 28, 2015, another Feast ot the Tabernacles.

And that these ‘tetrads’ in the past have coincided with important events in the life of the Jewish people:

In 1493, a tetrad occurred while the Jews were being expelled from Spain. Another tetrad occurred in 1949, soon after the state of Israel was founded. The last tetrad happened in 1967, during the Six-Day War between Arabs and Israelis.

I know you might find this hard to believe, but John also has a book coming out.

And yes, it’s all about blood moons. Here’s the premise:

“Just as in biblical times, God is controlling the sun, the moon, and the stars to send our generation a signal that something big is about to happen. The question is: Are we watching and listening to His message?” 

So… are YOU ready for the blood moons?

What do you do when you read things like this? Laugh? Cry? or take them semi-seriously?

Todd

Read more here…

The 20 Most Influential Evangelicals in America

Recently, LifeWay President Thom Rainer compiled a list of 20 of what he thinks are the most influential evangelicals in America.  The list, he says, is subjective (he just asked about 30 friends for input).

Here were the criteria:

–They had to be American

–They had to be living

–They had to be ‘evangelical’ (whatever that means)

–The nominees had to be influential (not necessarily those whom the person agreed with).

Here are the results… see what you think.  (These are in alphabetical order):

  1. Matt Chandler
  2. Wilfredo De Jesus (Pastor Choco)
  3. Ross Douthat
  4. Tony Evans
  5. Louie Giglio
  6. Franklin Graham
  7. Craig Groeschel
  8. Bill Hybels
  9. T. D. Jakes
  10. Tim Keller
  11. Lecrae
  12. Albert Mohler
  13. Beth Moore
  14. Joyce Meyer
  15. Joel Osteen
  16. John Piper
  17. Dave Ramsey
  18. Priscilla Shirer
  19. Any Stanley
  20. Rick Warren

The only one I was not familiar with was Ross Douthat, who is an author and New York Times columnist.

Interesting that Lecrae made the list.

3 women. That will get some fired up.

1 hispanic. 4 African Americans.

Not on the list:  Mark Driscoll (although I wonder if his current woes kept him off this list for a time).

Also not on the list:  James Dobson, Pat Robertson.

No John MacArthur or John Piper either.  (Oops… correction… Piper IS on the list).

And no nod to younger pastors like Perry Noble or Steven Furtick (who also may have been knocked off by controversy).

More notably… no Francis Chan.

A couple of charismatic/pentecostals on the list, but not many.

What do YOU think?  Who else SHOULD have been on the list?

And who should have NOT been on the list?

Are lists like these helpful, hurtful, or just interesting (I fall into the ‘just interesting’ camp myself).

Would love to hear your thoughts.

Todd

Read Thom Rainer’s original post here…

Pray for Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale

My heart hurts whenever I hear stories like this. (And it seems to be quite often).

Many of you have probably heard about Pastor Bob Coy’s resignation from Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale within the past week for ‘moral failures’. Bob Coy was the founding pastor of CCFL.  It’s a huge church (20,000+ attendees, 10 campuses).  His impact has been huge in the Calvary Chapel movement, in Fort Lauderdale, and really all over the country through his radio and TV ministry.

I always hate to hear stories of moral failure.  This one, for me, hit a little more at home.  My oldest son has been attending CCFL’s School of Worship for the past year. It was an especially tough weekend for him and his community. I have many feelings on the subject (and the full range of emotions, as I usually do… anger, sadness, etc.).  My friend Ron Edmondson does a great job of summing up my thoughts here (We think alike, Ron).

Would you do me a favor?  Would you pray for CCFL today?  Pray that the church would remain strong and follow Jesus (I have every hope that they will.  CCFL is a great church).  Pray for Bob. that there will be full repentance and longing for restoration.  Pray for his wife Diane, who has to be under extreme duress during this time, and for their teenage kids (I can’t imagine).  Pray for the nearly 1,000 employees of CCFL who have been sucker punched and last their pastor of nearly 30 years.

And if you have time to pray even more specifically, pray for the teachers and students at the school of worship. Many are preparing for full-time places of ministry.  While this is a horrible thing, it’s also a practical thing that they will have a front-seat for… (I realize that sounds very academic… but they will see first-hand the power of sin, and how a very large organization (or even a small one) has to deal with the consequences of such sin.  And pray for my son in particular as he sorts out all of this mess.

God truly is in control.  But that doesn’t make news like this any easier to bear. Ever.

Todd

×

TWO WEEKS FREE: This week's top 50 stories for pastors & church leaders... Subscribe today and get your first two weeks FREE!

Switch to our mobile site