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It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye

Firing. Dismissal. Termination.

It’s tough stuff.

But nowhere is firing more tough than in the church.

We’re friends. We’re colleagues. We serving Christ together.

We need to be patient. Show mercy. Have longsuffering.

But sometimes it just needs to happen.

Have you ever had to make the difficult decision to let a staff member go?

When is the time right? How do you know you’re making the right decision?

Tim Stevens writes:

Here is a good question to ask: If you were hiring for that position today, would you rehire the same person? If the answer is a quick and emphatic “No!” then you have your answer. Now you just need to think through how to gracefully take steps toward a conversation.

Tim gives advice on when, how and who to tell about the departure as well as some tips for the employee’s graceful exit.

Click here to read the full story. 

What do you think?

  • Have you ever let someone stay on too long and wish you had let them go earlier?
  • What have you learned from letting a staff member go?
  • How has it changed how you hire staff?

I’d love to hear your stories. Email me at I’m passionate about church staffing issues, and would love to help however I can. Visit my website for additional resources and information.


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