Brad Hambrick, the Pastor of Counseling at J.D. Greear’s The Summit Church, shares about pursuing constructive conversations with those who experience same sex attraction in his new book: Do Ask, Do Tell, Let’s Talk: Why and How Christians Should Have Gay Friends. Hambrick writes that one on one conversations are most important for sensitive and controversial issues, but when preaching on same sex attraction, Hambrick recommends a personal connection with a gay friend first, avoiding laugh or applause lines, and avoiding “abomination” language or confusing: same sex attraction, gay identity, and homosexual behavior.
Why this post matters for church leaders:
Whatever your church teaches about same sex attraction or marriage, there are people in your congregation who identify as gay, experience same sex attraction, or have loved ones who identify as gay.
- Where do we draw a line on sin? Brad Hambrick writes that pastors shouldn’t make the mistake of equating same sex attraction with same sex “sexual acts.”
- Are you speaking from experience? Hambrick warns pastors that they should speak with caveats and humility if they don’t know anyone who experiences same sex attraction and that it’s ideal to know someone personally who can help them speak with greater knowledge and compassion.
- Are we setting ourselves up to fail? It is extremely difficult to discuss sensitive or controversial topics in a group setting. Hambrick notes that pastors will often far better in one-on-one conversations and should approach addressing a larger group with caution.
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