How to Discern Advice or Criticism… a simple way to process advice.

As a church leader, have you ever encountered someone in your church with an agenda?

We all have.  In fact, we ALL have an agenda.  You have one.  I have one.

A good definition of criticism is this:  when agendas collide.

How do you respond when you’re criticized or given advice?

Seth Godin writes…

It’s quite natural to be defensive in the face of criticism. After all, the critic is often someone with an agenda that’s different from yours.

But advice, solicited advice from a well-meaning and insightful expert? If you confuse that with criticism, you’ll leave a lot of wisdom on the table.

Here’s a simple way to process advice: Try it on.

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Different agendas aren’t necessarily a bad thing.

In fact, we can learn much from listening and being open.

That doesn’t mean that we have to change our agenda to match the person giving the input.

But… would it hurt to, as Seth puts it, “Try it on?”

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One Comments

  • Dave Patchin March 3, 2015 Reply

    I’ve found that many times the angry critic is still speaking truth, just in a way intended to hurt or anger me. Processing that stuff over time for the nuggets of truth is very beneficial if I can get past the pain.

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