Here’s What I Think You Should Do…

There have been times during my ministry that I just wish someone would have just told me what to do.


I remember one time that I had to confront my then senior pastor on a major sin he had been hiding from everyone. I had inadvertently discovered it, and now had the burden of addressing the issue with my pastor, my boss, and my best friend.

I mean… how in the world do you go about doing that?

There was another time when (another pastor) was telling blatant lies about me and calling my integrity into question with people in the congregation. What a mess.

I often wished there was a “church” Judge Judy… or maybe a “ministry” Dr. Laura that I could confide to and get input from.

My problem was simple: everyone I knew either went to my church, was involved in another local church or my denomination, or ‘knew people that knew people’.

There was no one that I could speak with confidentially. I couldn’t open up.

Bottom line: I felt isolated and alone.

Other times, the struggles were much more subtle. Like when I felt God was nudging me along to a new phase of ministry, but I wasn’t sure. Or when I needed some advice on how to deal with a team member or volunteer that was challenging or draining.

Ministry is messy. And many times I felt pretty stinking alone.

I wish I would have had someone to talk to… someone without a dog in my fight, that could speak objectively into my situation.

Over the years, I’ve talked with many others that have felt the same way… neck deep in ministry with questions they need answers to or help with but didn’t really have anyone to ask. Sometimes we just feel trapped or get stuck.

There is value in listening, and there is value in being heard.

There is value in doing the right thing.

And there is value in seeking good advice.

And it’s important, in a ministry context, to speak with someone that you trust will have your best interests (and confidentiality) in mind.

I’d like to serve you in that role.

I’ve worked in churches. I’ve served on boards. I’ve been hired. And I’ve had to hire and fire. I’ve served in great times, and when times were literally jacked up.

I’ve been on both sides of the table.

To be honest, there’s not much that surprises me. If there’s one thing my 30 years in ministry has taught me, it’s that the advice of a trusted advisor is EXTREMELY valuable. It can bring clarity and restore confidence and calling.

If you need someone to bounce an idea off of, help resolve a conflict, or you need to get advice on your next move, I think I can provide some extreme value to you in your ministry. Maybe you just need someone to listen to your hopes, dreams, or frustrations or act as a sounding board. I’d love to help.

I’m opening up a few one-hour sessions over the next few weeks. I would feel privileged to be your trusted advisor and confidant. In fact… it would be an honor.

To schedule our time, just go to or reach out to me with any questions via my personal email at

I’d love to help you in whatever way I can.

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