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Five Secrets Pastors Refuse to Tell

Thom Rainer suggests that there are five secrets he fears pastors will not share.

Have you ever secretly thought any of these things?

  1. “My marriage is struggling.” 
  2. “I fear my kids will grow up hating the church.” 
  3. “I let a handful of critics control me.” 
  4. “I often have anger toward the supportive church members who don’t defend me to my critics.”
  5. “I’ve thought about quitting several times.”


If your secret needs action… today is a great day to take it.

If your marriage is suffering, it won’t get any better if you keep doing the same things.  In fact, it will get worse.

If you fear your kids will grow up hating church because of your position, talk with someone about it.  Come up with a plan to make sure that doesn’t happen.

If you have trouble with your critics… or with anger… or have thoughts of quitting… find a friend.  Open up.  Be transparent in a safe way.  You really can’t carry these burdens alone.

In fact, if you need a sounding board on these 5 (or any other things), please feel free to contact me at  I promise confidentiality and and ear with outside perspective.


via Five Secrets Pastors Refuse to Tell.


  • Chris Gallagher February 6, 2015 Reply


    Excellent thoughts. I took six months off of ministry because of 4 of the five things above. #1 was the one that was left out. In the midst of the struggles, it was putting a strain on my marriage but my wife and I were growing stronger.

    I was doing everything at the church I was at with no support. It was a huge struggle and it was killing me from the inside. One day I told my wife I was resigning and I did. As soon as the words left my mouth, a great burden was lifted off my shoulders and I was free again.

    I took six months off of ministry and as a result I am fired up again. I moved to a new congregation where the people welcomed us with open arms and encourage us everyday. We are blessed.

    I could go on, but this is long enough. Thank you for your words.

    Chris Gallagher

  • Bobby January 11, 2016 Reply

    Okay I’m concdnvei. Let’s put it to action.

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