Extrovertish leaders: Maybe you need to close your mouth. People may like you more if you do.

Today’s advice from Donald Miller:

If you’re an extrovert, getting people to like you is simple:

Stop talking so much.

No seriously. Stop it.

I know a lot of people who, out of nervousness or excitement think the best way to engage people is to talk them into utter submission. As if their endless words, jokes and anecdotes infused with Red Bull and hooked up to a V8 engine will fast-track them into the Connection Economy.

What so many don’t realize is that the secret to building relationships isn’t in the words you say, but in the questions you ask.

If you’re an introvert, the same truth applies. Don’t change who you are, just be more strategic in how you foster dialogue.

OK… anyone that knows me knows that I am more on the introvertish side of things.  It’s hard for me to ‘foster dialogue’.  But I will try harder.  🙂

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