Craig Gross from XXXChurch.com wrote a piece for CNN about the Anthony Weiner scandal that I thought was very good. Here’s an excerpt:
These are not the actions of a clown.
This is not something to make fun of.
This is a serious, family-wrecking, soul-crushing, career-destroying addiction.
Here’s what I would hope for Anthony Weiner: I would hope that he’d take himself out of the public eye, get back into counseling and put some concrete boundaries in place regarding his technology use.
And most important, I want him to get accountable.
As the leader of XXXchurch.com, I get to work with a lot of sex addicts – people who can’t stop using porn or people who feel trapped in making it – and the biggest key to breaking out of the cycle of addiction is accountability.
Accountability is not prevention. You know the term “yes men,” when people – especially politicians like Weiner – surround themselves with others who will just automatically agree with them? Most people think of accountability as surrounding yourself with a group of “no men,” who will always tell you what you can’t do.
That’s not it at all. Accountability is about having people around you whom you are intentionally open and honest with, people who will consistently challenge you to live up to the standards you’ve set for yourself. It’s about helping you to make good choices and live a freer, richer life.
I’m not going to point a mocking finger at Anthony Weiner. I can’t pass judgment on how he got to this point, because I don’t know him. But I can say that being accountable to others is not just a way of battling your addictive demons; it’s a way of putting a positive spin on your life to create times where you don’t hear the demons at all.
There are millions of us working through some kind of something. For some, it’s drugs. For others, it’s alcohol. For still others, it’s an eating disorder or trying to quit smoking or being in financial disarray.
For Anthony Weiner, it’s “Carlos Danger” and all that symbolizes.
Whatever you’re working through, don’t do it alone.
You don’t have to.